tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6019209035001389412.post2314269388196798602..comments2016-02-03T23:39:49.354-08:00Comments on Haphazard thoughts of a godless gamer: A response to Thunderf00t's latest videoHarkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12902884873211360552noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6019209035001389412.post-81858914425654682322013-01-06T16:08:56.115-08:002013-01-06T16:08:56.115-08:00I grew up in a culture that made me think there wa...I grew up in a culture that made me think there was nothing hugely wrong with sexual partners refusing to take "no" for an answer. The fact that they kept on doing what they wanted to do even though I made it clear I didn't want it seemed totally normal to them AND myself. I had this type of thing happen multiple times growing up and the culture I was raised in told me that this was probably just "guys being guys".<br />When people laugh about people not understanding what sexist behavior is or even what harassment is, it says to me that maybe you never had to deal with it or (and hopefully not) you like things this way and wish they'd continue without being fought back against.Brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08173610865152136768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6019209035001389412.post-75409516516501158842013-01-04T09:34:44.438-08:002013-01-04T09:34:44.438-08:00That's not bullying that's may at best be ...That's not bullying that's may at best be cajoling. A number of the contributes were not even asked to participate and did so because they thought it was worth while to. That to my mind is not cajoling. If someone rights a post saying the catholic church has problems in the way it is dealing with issues around sex, birth control and abuse in the modern world its not cajoling if other Catholics even vocal Catholics come out and say I agree and here's why. <br /><br />Unless you can point to specific instances of someone trying to leverage that position like "harassment against women is wrong and don't you agree and shouldn't you speak out" then I don't buy it. I see no reason to assume cajoling instead of people agreeing with the assessment and wanting to speak out as well.<br /><br />Where did I imply at any point that TAM did not have a policy before hand (it is mentioned only once in the piece). My personal opinion is that the policy needed to be made more explicit and I don't think their hidden policy this last year was helpful. But that is not to say or imply that it did not exist. If you can point to the section where I appear to be claiming this then I will edit the post to make this point clear.Harkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12902884873211360552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6019209035001389412.post-46834407736607998792013-01-03T23:47:36.419-08:002013-01-03T23:47:36.419-08:00Also, what are you talking about? TAM *had* a sexu...Also, what are you talking about? TAM *had* a sexual harassment policy first, even before Skepchick did. It had one at the conference that immediately followed the Elevator coffee invite.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04025404621960228054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6019209035001389412.post-65319266184623183812013-01-03T23:41:37.023-08:002013-01-03T23:41:37.023-08:00You don't seem to understand how this kind of ...You don't seem to understand how this kind of coercion works. You don't hate women, right? So what would you do if a woman, seemingly in distress, asked you to speak out against her and her sisters? You'd do it. Because if you refused, you'd be lumped in with the men who hate women (ad DJ Grothe has, for example). That's what TF means by "bullied or cajoled." Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04025404621960228054noreply@blogger.com